Getting Back in Touch with Your Emotions to Improve a Sexual Relationship
Erectile dysfunctions (ED) are often undertreated because sexual issues are usually not discussed with the doctor. Partially because doctors don’t always ask questions about this topic and partially because it is a sensitive topic and not all men are open to talk about it. This is why the current statistics show that 20-25% of American men suffer from this condition may not be accurate, and the actual number may be higher.
Why Do You Get Erectile Dysfunction?
As a man ages, the levels of testosterone decline, and this hormone plays a key role in the libido. The emotional connection between two partners can also fade away as the time passes. Since the body and mind are connected, an improvement in your emotions and relationship with your partner can significantly improve erectile dysfunctions.
It’s worth ruling out other factors that can cause erectile dysfunctions, including conditions such as diabetes, heart diseases, high cholesterol, prostate surgery or medications. Smoking definitely increases the risk of erectile dysfunction.
Many Emotions Can Affect Your Sexual Function
If you suffer from depression, you may have low self-esteem and this will affect your relationship and libido. Then your doctor may prescribe you an antidepressant, which commonly causes erectile dysfunction by itself.
How to deal with depression: talk to your wife/girlfriend about your feelings and emotions, and talk to your doctor if you can use lower doses of drug and use more psychotherapy to manage the depression.
Performance anxiety may be experienced during the initial phase of your relationship, and can surely cause erectile dysfunction. This creates a vicious cycle as an ED episode will likely cause performance anxiety next time you try having sex and this issue can go on and on.
How to deal with performance anxiety: if you don’t want to talk with your partner (which would be ideal), plan a romantic dinner with some music and light some candles. Try to relax with a nice massage and an extended foreplay before having sex.
Work Related Stress and Job Loss
Men often link self-worth with the ability to care for and financially support a partner. That’s why work related stress and job loss can easily cause problems in bed.
How to deal with work related stress: try to leave all the stress at work. Spend an extra 10 minutes after you finish your work and clear your mind. Set up your mind to leave the office stress free and don’t think about it while at home. If you lost your job, don’t think about it when planning an intimate moment. Focus on feeling good with your partner.
Sexual desire decreases if you are not emotionally connected with your partner. She may criticize or complain too much or maybe she cheated in the past. Maybe you two just grew apart.
How to deal with it: Communication is the key. Your partner may not realize what she does (did) is affecting you so much. Don’t be afraid to talk about how you feel. Get psychotherapist who specializes in couples to help you through this problem.